[95] S8 E3: Shelving the quest for normal: reframing, regulating, and removing the stigma from autism
Topics in this episode: coping mechanisms, employment, masking, meltdowns, regulation, self employment, stimming, things that have changed for the better since diagnosis

Ebonie Allard is an award-winning International Master Coach, an author, and an artist. Now in her early 40s, she was mostly raised in the UK, but before she was seven years old she had lived in a house truck, on a commune, in France, New Zealand, Ireland, and England. She now lives in Spain.

She says that she has never had a ‘proper job’ – she’s been self-employed, a freelancer, a business owner and an entrepreneur all her life.

Ebonie was diagnosed autistic fairly recently, but has always drawn neurodivergent people to her, and her work helps other neurodivergent, creative and spiritual humans to self actualise and enjoy their physical experience.

I enjoyed this conversation so much – Ebonie is such a calming presence and brings a wonderful mix of wisdom and down-to-earthness. In our conversation we talk about:

➡ Reframing our past lives and selves

➡ Replacing unhealthy coping mechanisms with healthier ones

➡ Learning to embrace our demons, process emotions and regulate our nervous systems

➡ Removing stigma around meltdowns, stimming and other natural autistic things

Squarepeg is a podcast in which neurodivergent women, and trans and nonbinary people, explore navigating a neurotypical world and share their insights, challenges and successes.

I hope that these conversations will be inspiring and thought provoking, open you up to new ways of thinking about being neurodivergent, and help you feel more connected to a worldwide community of people with similar experiences.

I’m Amy Richards, and after being diagnosed autistic at the age of 37 I’m now on a mission to learn more about different perspectives and issues around being a neurodivergent adult in a world that feels like it doesn’t quite fit.



Ebonie’s course, Misfit to Maven: the Fundamentals https://www.ebonieallard.com/the-fundamentals

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eboniealchemy/

This Sacrosanct Life podcast: https://www.ebonieallard.com/podcasts/this-sacrosanct-life

Adulting with Ebonie podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5BW278BdWdxI4dTuBpc1BY

Her book, Misfit to Maven (that we reference in this episode): https://www.ebonieallard.com/misfit-to-maven-book

Her book ‘The Manual of Me®️’: https://www.ebonieallard.com/the-manual-of-me

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