109 [S9 E4] Little glimpses underneath the mask: unravelling people-pleasing and imposter syndrome
Topics in this episode: autism at work, autism research, autistic children, autistic parents, bullying, masking, meltdowns, school, self employment

Gemma Gray is a strategic marketing consultant from Edinburgh in Scotland. She left her long-term role following a burnout two years ago and became self-employed. She is a parent to an autistic daughter, and was diagnosed herself in March this year, aged 46. Still in the early days of her diagnosis, she says she is unravelling being a people-pleasing professional masker with chronic low self esteem and imposter syndrome.

Eight years ago, before her own diagnosis, Gemma set up a Facebook group for parents of autistic children, which is still going strong, and she has recently been awarded funding to research employment opportunities for autistic women.

 

We talk about:

➡ Ableism and work, and finding freedom in self employment

➡ People pleasing, hating confrontation, and learning to say no

➡ Her rural childhood, being bullied at school, and befriending an elderly shepherdess and the school janitor

➡ Her journey to getting her daughter diagnosed, and not seeing her own autism because she was comparing herself to her young daughter

Squarepeg is a podcast in which neurodivergent women, and trans and nonbinary people, explore navigating a neurotypical world and share their insights, challenges and successes.

I hope that these conversations will be inspiring and thought provoking, open you up to new ways of thinking about being neurodivergent, and help you feel more connected to a worldwide community of people with similar experiences.

I’m Amy Richards, and after being diagnosed autistic at the age of 37 I’m now on a mission to learn more about different perspectives and issues around being a neurodivergent adult in a world that feels like it doesn’t quite fit.

 

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Gemma’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/grayconsultinguk

Her private FB group for parents of autistic children, Colouring Outside The Lines: https://www.facebook.com/groups/185070228524321

Instagram: https://instagram.com/latetotheautismparty

Churchill Fellowship: https://www.churchillfellowship.org/

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